SELF BLAME AND THE OLI EFFECT
If you haven’t seen an episode of ARROW on the CW I recommend that you check it out immediately. It’s a television adaptation of DC COMICS “GREEN ARROW”, which follows the story of a man who becomes a vigilante after surviving a shipwreck. The main character Oliver Queen aka The Green Arrow is known for a somewhat fatal character flaw, he blames himself for EVERYTHING(literally everything). From his view there’s nothing wrong with that because he considers himself a hero and holds himself accountable. Many of us suffer from the same thing in real life.
As a person who only goal is to succeed one of the things I must have is self control, the keyword there is SELF. Too many times I may try to control things that aren’t in my control and when it doesn’t goes my way I blame myself for not doing something or doing something that I should or should not have done.
Oliver has seen many tragedies during the course of the series; witnessed his mother killed by a villain, seen his father commit suicide to ensure his survival, and even just recently accidentally murdered his ex girlfriend’s current boyfriend (you’ll have to watch the show to get all that). However the common thread there is all those things were out of his control even though he felt like his actions beget those consequences.
We may consider ourselves the heroes of our families but we can’t save everything and everyone, we can only try our best and not beat ourselves up about it. Remember a true hero knows how to save him/herself from him/herself.
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